Erections and the single life
Erection problems can be even harder to handle without a regular partner. Single men are also needed to keep diaries of their experiences. How do they deal with the problem with a new partner? How do the women react? If they are using impotence treatments, do they tell the women they are doing this? Bettina would also like to hear from single women who have been with men in this situation. Here's a letter from an impotent man writing on a prostate support website (www.phoenix5.org) about this dilemma:
"My wife died in April 1988 and I moved to a retirement community. Within a year, I became somewhat involved with a woman a couple of years younger than me. She was coming on to me and I didn't know how to handle it. Viagra did not work for me and I was afraid to make the moves because without using a pump or injections I certainly could not perform. Finally I decided on an approach. Over dinner one night I told her that I was physically attracted to her, however I had a physical problem and felt that it would be unfair to her not to know that I was impotent. The look on her face was enough. I knew that it wouldn't work and although she tried to sound interested, she backed out of my life fast. Needless to say, I hit fresh depths for a few months."
If you would like more information about this new project or are willing to volunteer, contact Bettina.